I See. I See It All.

I see the long hours. I see the leaving before 6:00 am and not returning home till after 10:00 pm. I see the 7 day work weeks. I see.

I see the exhaustion. I see all the weight on your shoulders from being pulled in every direction possible. I see you dealing with paperwork, preparing for practice, actually practicing, breaking down film, keeping the fields maintained, teaching the boys plays, and even doing the team’s laundry. I see your fatigue. I see.

I see your stress. I see your stress over the players making the right choices every day in and out of school. I see your stress over the boys keeping their grades up. I see your stress of managing and delegating to your coaches. I see your stress of trying to squeeze in family time with me and the kids. I see.

I see your passion. I see how passionate you are about your job and how you are ALL IN all the time. I see how passionate you are about not only winning these games for these boys, but winning over their hearts and minds. I see how passionate you are about building relationships. I see you picking up kids to bring them to summer school and taking kids home after practice. I see you going to every coaching clinic you can. I see.

I see your guilt. I see your guilt of feeling like you can’t do it all. I see your guilt of not eating supper with us. I see your guilt of missing our kid’s practices or games. I see your guilt of feeling like you let someone down because you have so much on your plate. I see.

I see you sacrificing. I see you giving up your weekends and nights. I see you going without lunch or dinner. I see you missing our annual family beach trips. I see you not sleeping. I see.

I see your rewards. I see these boys who love, honor, respect, and trust you with everything. I see these boys who still call and come around years after they graduate. I see the boys who call late at night because they don’t think they can make it in college football. I see you encouraging them and telling them just what they need to hear to help them feel refreshed and ready to try again. I see these boys who look up to you in more ways than just football. I see you never letting them down. I see.

When I see you I see the one I love with every ounce of my being. I see the one I was made for and the one I need. This life is hard and not all people are made to live this life. It is tough, but I am so thankful God chose me to live this life by your side. I love this Coach Wife Life!

It’s More Than Just a Game!

I don’t know about you but the statement that makes my blood boil the most is when I hear, “It’s just a game!”. People that have not lived this life literally have NO IDEA how much more football is than “just a game”.

Football is my husband’s passion, therefore it is my passion. There is no doubt this is his calling. When people belittle his calling by saying it’s just a game infuriates me. This happens to be his job that pays the bills, yes. But the bigger picture is him advancing God’s kingdom.

My coach might be the only father figure, encourager, listener, or supporter that these boys have. And let me tell you he is all of that and more to these boys. He is developing, guiding, and shaping these young men in so many more ways than just football. He is preparing these young men for life.

In our lives, there are so many skills that I believe are absolutely necessary to be successful. Most of these skills are skills that my husband reinforces and shows by example daily to his players.

  • How to handle Triumph & Failures
  • Teamwork (so many jobs REQUIRE this)
  • Discipline
  • Leadership

I honestly believe truly understanding and demonstrating these skills will help these young men be more successful at their jobs and relationships in general.

This game is my husband’s ministry and mission. He is not only trying to win games but he is mostly trying to win these boys. He wants to win over their hearts, minds, and trust. This is a bond that he shares with these boys that goes way beyond the field.

What’s even better is the bond my 6 year old son has with these players. He has 100 big brothers that are looking after him. They always make him feel like a part of the team. To see my son’s eyes light up when he is with them makes my heart so happy.

As you can see this game is so dear to all of our hearts! I am so thankful to be a part of something more than just a game. I love this Coach Wife Life!

Deep breath girl. You got this!

The first thing I think about when I open my tired eyes in the morning is everything that I must accomplish that day and the little amount of time I get to complete these tasks. Just those thoughts overwhelm me and I begin the day thinking I failed at this mom and wife thing.

How many wives and moms go through every day feeling content with checking off everything on their to-do list? I am sure, not many if any!

You are not the only one who thinks working full time, being a mom, and being a great wife is virtually impossible every single day! I know some days you rock it, but let’s be honest that is not every day!

You are not the only mom who sees other moms making the cute treats for their kid’s class and think Lord I suck! You are not the only one who sees other moms attending every school function and think my poor kid is missing out. You are not the only one who hears stories of husbands and wives going on romantic getaways or even actually going on a simple date and think our marriage is failing. You are not the only one swinging through a drive-thru for dinner while wishing you could be that mom that cooks every night.

You are NOT the only one!

I have days where I feel like I can conquer the world and then days where I feel like an absolute slob and only want to watch Lifetime and eat ALL DAY!
Yes, this is my living room often! Laundry is my worst enemy and I know I am not alone here!

It’s ok Momma!!! It is ok to have those days where you stay in your PJs all day and don’t even brush your teeth. It’s ok to not be the Mom of the Year or the Best Wife Ever every single day.

When you have days like this enjoy your “day off” and try again tomorrow. It’s ok to cry and think poor pitiful me. But do not unpack and stay there! Cry it out in your bed and then get back up and refocus!

Momma, it’s normal to have these feelings! We all compare ourselves to other moms and wives. STOP doing that! Most of these comparisons come from social media. Social media has caused us to be jealous of illusions. Most of these things we as moms and wives are envious of do not even exist! Comparison is the thief of joy. Do not let it steal your joy!

  • You got this!
  • You are enough!
  • You are a great mother!
  • You are an amazing wife!

You are unstoppable not because you do not have failures, doubts, or insecurities. But because you kept on going when you thought you could not.

Sometimes I think we as coaches’ wives think we have to be tougher than others, but we don’t! We are normal and have these feelings and live emotional roller coasters too. Just embrace the highs and race through the lows of being a coach’s wife and momma!

You were handpicked to live this life with your Hubs and serve right beside him, what a blessing!

Enjoy this Coach Wife Life and remember to breathe!