Deep breath girl. You got this!

The first thing I think about when I open my tired eyes in the morning is everything that I must accomplish that day and the little amount of time I get to complete these tasks. Just those thoughts overwhelm me and I begin the day thinking I failed at this mom and wife thing.

How many wives and moms go through every day feeling content with checking off everything on their to-do list? I am sure, not many if any!

You are not the only one who thinks working full time, being a mom, and being a great wife is virtually impossible every single day! I know some days you rock it, but let’s be honest that is not every day!

You are not the only mom who sees other moms making the cute treats for their kid’s class and think Lord I suck! You are not the only one who sees other moms attending every school function and think my poor kid is missing out. You are not the only one who hears stories of husbands and wives going on romantic getaways or even actually going on a simple date and think our marriage is failing. You are not the only one swinging through a drive-thru for dinner while wishing you could be that mom that cooks every night.

You are NOT the only one!

I have days where I feel like I can conquer the world and then days where I feel like an absolute slob and only want to watch Lifetime and eat ALL DAY!
Yes, this is my living room often! Laundry is my worst enemy and I know I am not alone here!

It’s ok Momma!!! It is ok to have those days where you stay in your PJs all day and don’t even brush your teeth. It’s ok to not be the Mom of the Year or the Best Wife Ever every single day.

When you have days like this enjoy your “day off” and try again tomorrow. It’s ok to cry and think poor pitiful me. But do not unpack and stay there! Cry it out in your bed and then get back up and refocus!

Momma, it’s normal to have these feelings! We all compare ourselves to other moms and wives. STOP doing that! Most of these comparisons come from social media. Social media has caused us to be jealous of illusions. Most of these things we as moms and wives are envious of do not even exist! Comparison is the thief of joy. Do not let it steal your joy!

  • You got this!
  • You are enough!
  • You are a great mother!
  • You are an amazing wife!

You are unstoppable not because you do not have failures, doubts, or insecurities. But because you kept on going when you thought you could not.

Sometimes I think we as coaches’ wives think we have to be tougher than others, but we don’t! We are normal and have these feelings and live emotional roller coasters too. Just embrace the highs and race through the lows of being a coach’s wife and momma!

You were handpicked to live this life with your Hubs and serve right beside him, what a blessing!

Enjoy this Coach Wife Life and remember to breathe!

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10 Signs That You ARE a Coach’s Wife

  • 1. You can NOT decide which spirit shirt to wear to the game because you literally have 3 drawers full!
  • 2. You feel like a single parent from June-December. But to top it off you are failing miserably at home cooked meals, a clean house, and the pileS of laundry!! Yes, PILES!
  • 3. Your coach is constantly asking you whats a good signal for this call or that call.
  • 4. “Date Night” consists of watching film, washing uniforms, or going to watch other games! But you love every minute of it because you are finally getting some time with him!
  • 5. You have the biggest and most comfy stadium seat ever. Mine is ginormous, and I get a lot of questions! LOL
  • 6. While on vacation it is a MUST that we drive by any high school football stadium within a 15-mile radius.
  • 7. You have a list of go-to recipes for when you have to feed “the boys”.
  • 8. Every mirror in your house has a dry erase marker nearby to jot down plays that pop in his head. Yes, all of my mirrors have several plays on them. Even my 6 year old follows suit! =)
  • 9. You learn that when your coach says he will be home at a certain time you always add AT LEAST 2 hours to that time. This is something I really struggled with, but have learned to accept.
  • 10. Last but not least, you are proud of him win or lose. You support his decisions, (even when you don’t agree or understand), but you honor him by supporting him and encouraging him. You are his #1 fan!!

I say all of this to you to remind you that you are NOT alone. All of your thoughts, struggles, and frustrations are real. We all feel these emotions. It has helped me enormously to hear from other wives to know that it is not just me. Reach out to other coach wives, vent your frustrations, but most of all be understanding that this job of your husbands is not just a job. It is his calling. I know without a doubt my amazing husband is doing what God has called him to do. If that involves date nights washing uniforms, late hours, and dirty mirrors so be it. Because he is doing what God has called him to do and I am blessed to get to be a part of him serving.

I am thankful that I get to live this Coach Wife Life!!!

Our Starting Lineup

Welcome to the chaotic, yet wonderful, Coach’s Wife Life! I had no idea what I was getting into when I married a Head Football Coach two years ago! Boy was I in for an eye-opening surprise! It’s been scary, stressful, rewarding, and life-changing in so many ways. I am sure if you are reading this you can relate to this crazy thing we call a football family!

My wonderful hubby and I were “high school” sweethearts. Well, that is a tricky statement considering I was NOT in high school, but in college dating a high school guy! =) Yea, I guess you can say I robbed the cradle! haha! I am so thankful I did! Our story is truly a Lifetime Movie that I know I will share with you all in the future.

We have two wonderful children. Ella Claire is our sassy 11-year-old and Abram is our football loving 6-year-old. I must say Coach B is an amazing step dad and our kids are so blessed to have him in their lives. He took on this fatherhood thing overnight and he has rocked it (like everything he does)!

I hope to use this blog as an outlet for me, but also as a source of encouragement for other wives like me. I am a full time working mom, mother of two, trying to conceive #3, and married to a coach. When I actually see all that in writing it stresses me even more! LOL I guess this is just a part of living the Coach Wife Life!